Strength in the Scars

Here we go again with the shadow cards.  This week we get to encounter The Great Severing from Rebecca Campbells The Starseed Oracle Guidebook.  We get to look our shadow in the face, the things that hurt us most, the conflict within our hearts, the people that have scarred us and say I forgive you! Then let it all go. AHHH!! Holy smokes if it were that simple would this not be heaven on earth?! The truth is, this takes work.

We have been hurt, put up walls and get ourselves into survival mode to protect our hearts from being hurt again.  Frustrations, anger, triggers, sadness and hurt set in and we start to close off our hearts.  You start cutting yourself off to love as protection.

My personal experience of this is saying “I don’t like to be around people”, judging others, not being open to the life choices of others or thinking I know the better way, letting my hurt self lead my choices instead of being open to the truth in what others say, not truly listening if I don’t want to hear it.  And the big one that is really resonating with me…blaming others for what I am feeling.

I pulled this card a week ago and what I learned when trying to heal this this week and forgive is that I CANNOT HEAL THIS IN A WEEK.  What I can do though is take baby steps towards forgiveness.  I can begin to soften.  The card shares that, “We are all innocent children spinning our way mourned the world.  Find a way to see the innocence in all people, especially yourself.”  You are human.  Give yourself some grace and know that this is difficult.  Life is difficult and this is true for EVERYONE.

So some ways to soften are to see those that hurt you.   Imagine them as their 5 year old self.  A curious little kid just trying to figure out the world.  They had people they looked up to telling them what to think of the world, moulding them, grooming them, teaching them the best they possibly knew how.  Can you soften to this idea of them?  Could you perhaps see what might have shifted them to become the person they are today?  Perhaps there is a little part of you that might be able to empathize with their child self.  That child self is within all of us doing our personal best to survive this world.

Another illumination came up when I drew the 6 of Cups which tells us that “between incarnations we choose our wounds”.  Everything that comes to us in this life, we ourselves have chosen.  With that, how can we use what we have chosen to better ourselves?  To be motivated to become stronger, grow from the pain, see this as a launching point rather than a falling point.

You can shift any perspective… if you truly want to.  You must be willing to change the story to actually make it happen.

How can we allow ourselves to let just a touch more love in?  To see that everyone is just trying their best and wanting and needing more love?  What small shifts can you make today to grow your forgiveness muscle?  Again, you do not have to heal this in a day.  Relax around it all and trust that you are making progress.

Each step you take is in the right direction if it is done with love.

With hope, love & inspiration,

Emily

This disclaimer ensures that the reader comprehends that while this blog can offer guidance, it shouldn't replace professional advice like that from a doctor or therapist. I am not a doctor or therapist, the above excerpt is opinion based and to be taken at your own discretion